Welcome to The P-Spot! (Formerly Incendiaire’s Reviews)

When I first started my blog back in 2012 I honestly had no idea that 7 years later I’d still be here writing about sex toys as enthusiastically as ever.

That blog was something that I hastily slapped together, without even thinking through the name too much, and frankly I’d outgrown it long ago.

Now I’m excited to begin a whole new chapter of blogging, so you can expect the same in-depth reviews of sex toys for men, just on a shiny new domain!

Stay tuned for some great new products that I have lined up, all thanks to some wonderful people I met at the ETO Show, and don’t forget to follow my new Twitter handle @The_PSpot if you’re not already.

Finally a big thanks to Epiphora for encouraging me to finally do this. 

Lovehoney Returns Policy Change

In case you’re like me and managed to miss this announcement, on January 19th of this year Lovehoney changed their famous returns policy. 
Since Lovehoney was founded in 2002 they’ve had possibly the most generous returns policy in all of retail, a 365 day no-quibble guarantee to refund or replace any purchase for any reason, up to 1 year after the initial transaction. 
This was a revolutionary policy, and a big part of why I’ve been recommending Lovehoney to people for years. Even with all the reviews in the world you never know if a toy is actually going to work for you, so the beauty of the policy is that you could try out a product in the safe knowledge that you wouldn’t end up losing out.
Sadly now that policy has gone, and been replaced by a more standard one. Fear not though, for any items purchased before January 19th 2018 the old policy is still in effect, so there’s still time to take advantage of it should you need to for any reason. 
The new returns policy is far more restrictive and offers:
  • A full refund on products which are unopened and unused, up to 30 days after purchase.
  • A one year guarantee to replace any faulty items.
  • The option to swap a used toy for another of similar value within 30 days from purchase.
I think it’s a real shame that this happened, but I guess things like this couldn’t last forever. Make sure you’re aware before splashing out in any upcoming sales.

Three Years!

My little blog turned three today; it almost doesn’t seem possible, and yet at the same time it has become an established part of my life since I began it in earnest back in 2012.
I’ve been too swamped to really plan anything to celebrate it this year, so I thought I’d just make a brief post to mark the milestone.
As always thanks to everyone who’s been a part of my blogging experience over the past year, from the humble commenters on my reviews, to the generous companies who’ve sent out products for me to test. I couldn’t keep doing it without the support.
Before I sign off, seeing as today also marks another event, I hope all the couples out there have a great Valentine’s Day together. As for the rest of us, pizza and Fleshjack would be a fine way to spend the evening.

Fun Factory Vibrator Giveaway Winners

For the past three weeks I’ve been running a competition with Fun Factory to give away three of their all new vibrators. It came to a close a few hours ago, and because I don’t believe in dilly-dallying the winners have already been drawn at random and you can check below to see if you were one of the lucky three to be chosen.
Thanks to everyone who entered the competition, and who helped to spread the word by tweeting and through other social media. I did spot that I got a large number of entrants from the United States, who missed the notice that the competition was open to people in Europe only. Sorry about that guys; I’ll try to hold another giveaway soon that’s open to folks in North America as well.
Everyone who’s won should get a confirmation e-mail from me saying which vibrator they’ll be receiving. I’ve tried to pair everyone up with their first preference, so I hope you’ll all be happy. Someone from Fun Factory should be in touch shortly to obtain your shipping information.
The winners’ names are featured on the widget below:

What’s It Made Of?

Like many sex bloggers out there I’m a big advocate of safe, non-toxic, sex toys, and you might have noticed this from the references scattered throughout my reviews and all across Twitter. Thanks to the work of many dedicated sex educators out there, both in the industry and the blogosphere, people are gaining a much greater knowledge about all the different materials that are used in the production of sex toys. There’s an increased awareness of those materials that should be avoided altogether, those that are safe for external use but not recommended for insertion, and those which can be sterilised and shared with a partner vs those which cannot. This is a positive thing, but you can only put any of this to use if you’re also knowledgeable about precisely what your toys are made of to begin with, and you’d think that that would be as easy to find out as looking the products up on a retailer’s website. As I found out today there’s some confusion which makes things not quite so simple.

I was researching some products earlier by the Japanese manufacturer Tenga. Now before I go any further I want to stress that Tenga is a brand that I trust, and it is well known that they use only safe materials in their products. The issue I discovered is that many of the places selling Tenga products aren’t really sure what they’re actually made of, and as such are passing on the wrong information to their customers.
The first product I searched for was the Tenga 3D, because it’s something I’ve never tried and it piqued my curiosity. I wanted to know exactly what it was made of so that I’d have some idea of how it might feel, but I ended up checking out three different major UK stores because each one came up with a different answer. This surprised me because, like many people, I typically rely on the information presented to me on a product page, so I resorted to going straight to Tenga’s own website for the answer. Here’s how everything stacked up:
Tenga 3D
In this instance the kudos goes to Simply Pleasure for being the only one to get it right, or at least close enough (*to their credit & Lovehoney do both make mention of an ‘antibacterial elastomer’ buried elsewhere within their product descriptions, but not in the specific material section – as you’ll see in the photos at the end – so it’s not at all clear). “Ag Antibacterial Elastomer” still sounds like a bit of a mystery in itself, but my understanding is that it’s a proprietary material which uses the addition of silver (hence the ‘Ag’ if you know your periodic table) to give the antibacterial effect. As it’s an elastomer it’s still going to be porous, so it’s best not to share it, and the silver content probably rules it out for the supernatural contingent of MTV’s Teen Wolf.
Moving on from the Tenga 3D I remembered that I’d had some problem ascertaining exactly what the interior of the Tenga Flip Holes was made from, back when I reviewed a couple, so again I compared what Tenga had to say on the matter with three major retailers, and again I found disparities:
Tenga Flip Hole
On this occasion none of them came up with the right answer, which is disappointing. The other issue is that two of them are claiming that the material is silicone when it’s not. Silicone is a highly praised material in the sex toy world because it’s non-porous and therefore can be sterilised and shared with a partner. TPE on the other hand is porous, and while it’s a safe material for a masturbator on the whole, there’s potential risk involved in sharing it. Tenga, like Fleshjack, instruct you not to share their products, but there’s the possibility here of someone with good material knowledge thinking that it’s safe to go against that advice, because they’re under the impression that it’s made of something it’s not.
Finally I thought I’d check out the Tenga Eggs, and you can probably guess my findings already:
Tenga Eggs
Simply Pleasure was the only one to come close to the right answer again, so right now they’re in the lead with 2/3 correct. 
I have to say that I really don’t know what it is about Tenga products that makes it so difficult for retailers to list their materials correctly. Right now we’re sitting on an accuracy rate of 2.5/9, which isn’t great, and I don’t know what I’d find if I were to check out more products in the Tenga range, or expand my selection of websites to include international ones. What we have learnt today though is that if you want a definitive answer on what a toy’s made from, check with the manufacturer directly, or consult a reviewer who’s gone the extra mile and done the research for you.
I’ve included a few screengrabs below of the Tenga 3D results just to illustrate the point, because hopefully the sites in question will amend their information soon.