Nexus Glide

My lovely friends over at DIY Orgasms were running a contest recently to win a Nexus Glide, courtesy of, and I just happened to be the winner. I felt that the least I could do to say thanks would be to review it and give their website a big shout out.

The Glide is one of a range of prostate massagers available from Nexus, who specialise in making male toys. It has a shape that’s fairly traditional for this type of product, and that shares a number of design similarities with other brands such as Aneros. The Glide is one of Nexus’s smaller and non-vibrating models, so I’d consider it to be aimed more at beginners. The body of the toy measures in at only 4″ long, and with a circumference of 3 1/2″ at the widest point, so it’s unlikely intimidate anyone.
The Glide is manufactured from a very hard plastic and features a finely textured surface, which unfortunately is one of my least favourite combinations in sex toy construction. I don’t mind hard materials in general, in fact my metal and glass toys are amongst my favourites, but the difference is that they balance their rigid inflexibility by having smooth shiny surfaces which aid insertion. The Glide has a matte finish, and this feels especially prominent on a hard toy, compared to softer toys where fine textures get somewhat lost when the material is compressed. What’s unfortunate is that Nexus seem to have altered the design at some point, as older photos of the original purple version show the surface to be shiny, but in my colour and others it’s very much textured to the touch. The plastic of the toy is all made in one piece, but it does have a slight mould line running the length of it. This isn’t an area of concern though, as it’s barely raised and can’t be felt during use.
The end of the Glide isn’t huge, but it is quite blunt, so if you’re not used to anal play then I’d be careful as trying to insert something hard and blunt can cause discomfort in a sphincter that isn’t relaxed enough. Provided you’re prepared it should begin go in with relative ease, but inserting the Glide all the way isn’t the most seamless action, as the texture of the surface does cause some noticeable friction. Once the Glide is inside it naturally doesn’t feel that filling due to its small size, but the firm and inflexible nature of the plastic means that you can feel the tip of it nestling up against the prostate. Somewhat surprisingly the toy does seem to stay in place quite well, despite not really having a neck. Typically the anus will come to rest somewhere around the top of the ribbed portion of the shaft, and I was expecting it to gradually work it’s way out, but this never occurred – perhaps in part because I was very sparing with my use of lube. The Glide is intended to create stimulation in the prostate simply by moving in response to the user clenching and relaxing the pelvic floor muscles, but I found this particularly disappointing, and noticed no greater stimulation than when the toy remained stationary. In my experience in order to get the most out of the Glide it needs to be moved, and that’s where the base of the toy comes into play. 
The base of the Glide incorporates two features: a perineum stimulator at the front, and a handle-like portion at the back. Initially the handle seems as though it’s going to be problematic. I’m a person who generally likes to use my anal toys in a seated position, or lying on my back, but the shape of the handle makes that impossible and considerably limits your options. The only way to really use it is when lying on your side or kneeling, because if you attempt to sit on it then it’s rather painful. While the toy tries to promote hands-free use, the thing is that you actually need access to that handle in order to make the most of the toy. By using the handle you’re able to gently thrust the toy and angle it right into the prostate. My preferred technique is to place my thumb on the base of the shaft, and wrap my first two fingers around the handle in order to gain some leverage. Once you start using the toy in this manner, with short rhythmic prodding, a wave of pleasurable prostate sensations will come over you. I found that this can be a little hit and miss though, being enjoyable at times and having no effect on others. The best indicator that it’s working is that you’ll spontaneously and unavoidably develop an erection in the process. The big downside is that this can be quite tiring to keep up, especially if you don’t have a partner to manipulate it for you, as prostate orgasms don’t come easily if they come at all. If you really would prefer a hands-free experience then a better alternative might be the Nexus G-rider, which has a rounded base, allowing the user to rock back and forth on it to generate sensation. 
The other aspect of the base is the perineum stimulator, which I found worked less well. It consists of a ball bearing mounted into a socket, and which is supposed to roll over the area to stimulate it. The problem I had with this was primarily down to its position; it’s located only 5/8″ away from the anus, so it’s not applying pressure to an optimal point of the perineum. The other issue is that it’s angled upwards too much, so you lose about 3/4″ of insertable length in order to accommodate it, but this seemed to have less of an impact. By comparison the Nexus Neo seems much better designed in this regard.
Plastic wouldn’t be my first choice of material for a toy like this, but it does have some benefits such as being odourless, and compatible with silicone lubes as well as water-based. Plastic is also quite easy to clean, and handily the Glide comes with a little attachment which allows you to pop the ball bearing out of its socket. To clean the Glide you can simply wash it with anti-bacterial soap and hot water, or as plastic is non-porous you can wipe it over with a 10% bleach solution to sterilise it. One thing it’s not safe to do though is to boil the toy, as the rapid heating and cooling could cause the material to crack.
I have to say that the Glide is a bit of a mixed bag for me; it some ways it’s exactly what I expected it to be, and in other ways it pleasantly surprised me. Once I found a technique for using it that suited me I got more pleasure out of it than I thought I would, but frankly the lack of consistency with which it delivers this, combined with some of the flaws I found in the design, discourage me from using it more. What it really comes down to is that I prefer something a bit bigger, a bit softer, and that vibrates so I have to do less of the work.
The Nexus Glide is available from SexShop365, and Honour

Rocks Off Butt Boy

The Butt Boy is my fourth toy from Rocks Off; in the past I unfortunately haven’t been all that impressed with their products, but I liked the shape and the design of the Butt Boy enough that I wanted to try it, and I felt like giving them another chance.

The Butt Boy is a dual butt plug and perineum stimulator, modelled after the other prostate massagers that Rocks Off manufacture in this range. The plug portion of the Butt Boy has a length of 3″ from the tip to the widest point, and a thickness of 2″. It doesn’t appear especially large in person, and the gradient is quite gentle, but a 2″ diameter should be a red flag for a beginner. Anyone planning on tackling the Butt Boy really wants to have had prior experience with smaller anal toys before they do so. The underside of the bulb of the plug isn’t very rounded, and in fact has quite an angular corner where it sharply narrows down away from the widest point. Stemming on from the bulb is the neck of the plug, which is a mere 1/4″ long, and incredibly short compared to the majority of plugs on the market. The neck is only 3/4″ wide, which allows it a good amount of flexibility in this region. The perineum stimulator portion of the Butt Boy extends from the neck of the plug at a 90 degree angle, and is 3″ long. It looks a bit like a handle and can be used as such. On the top it has three raised nodules designed to press against the perineum, and at the end is an opening where the RO-80mm vibrating bullet is inserted. On the whole I think it’s a pretty attractive piece to look at.
The Butt Boy is made from silicone, but like with all Rocks Off toys it’s an especially firm silicone, quite different to what you’d expect from a Tantus toy, or something by Doc Johnson. Squeezing the toy reveals that it’s quite difficult to compress, and that there’s very little give in the material. The surface of the toy is matte, but it feels slightly more rough than it does velvety, and it’s also marred by the presence of a raised mould line running the full length. Compared to the Bad Boy the surface of the Butt Boy is smoother and less rough feeling.
Inserting the toy isn’t the most comfortable experience; while the gentle taper aids the process, the matte finish creates friction along the way, and the firm material does nothing to cushion the entrance as the sphincter expands. It fails to slip inside with a level of ease that would be desirable. Once you insert the plug up to the widest point, the sharp angular corner doesn’t provide the most pleasant feeling for the muscles to glide over, and one of the mould lines in this area caused a noticeably scratchy feeling. With the plug fully inside it becomes apparent that the short neck is a problem; 1/4″ in length just isn’t enough space for what is required. Most plugs have at least an inch of neck on them, and this is because that roughly corresponds to the thickness of muscle between the outside of the anus and the rectal cavity. Anything less that means that the muscles have nothing to contract and rest against, and instead they must rest against the underside of the bulb, which keeps them dilated. The result is that the plug doesn’t sit securely inside the body, and constantly feels as though it’s half hanging out, no matter how much you try to try to contract the muscles to further pull it in. It also prevents the widest point of the plug from getting in deep enough to provide a pleasantly full feeling, and nudge up against the prostate. The perineum stimulator, I found, was quite a nice addition to the plug. I enjoyed the sensation of something resting between my legs, as opposed to the standard base you get with a butt plug. I did find a number of problems with it, however. The first was that it didn’t apply enough pressure. The 90 degree angle meant that it only sat resting against the perineum, it really could have used a more acute angle in the construction to create a pleasant pushing sensation. The second was that due to the shape of it, only about 2″ of the total length came into contact with the perineum, while the final inch was wasted. The third and final problem I found was that it was too short. For me the most sensitive region of the perineum is closer to the base of the penis, so it really could have used an extra inch of length, so as to get closer to stimulating that point.
The other feature of the Butt Boy is that it vibrates. The vibration is powered by the RO-80 bullet, which can be removed and used separately if desired. The bullet is held in place very snuggly and can be difficult to extract without a lot of twisting, tugging, and wiggling, as the tight fit forms a vacuum inside. The entire toy is waterproof, so removing the bullet during routine washing isn’t a necessity. When the bullet was inserted and turned on, the vibrations did seem to travel the length of the toy, to the point that I felt a tingling inside, but none of which seemed to cause any pleasurable sensations in the prostate, even after prolonged usage. The part of the toy which vibrates the most strongly is the perineum stimulator, as that’s where the bullet is located. By the time the vibrations travel from the source, through the length of the toy, and into the body they seem to weaken to a fair degree, being absorbed and dampened along the way. The vibrations felt quite nice against the perineum, but it was really nothing special, I would have much rather been able to feel the vibrations actually inside the body. The Butt Boy would have worked much better in my opinion if instead of having the bullet hole in the perineum stimulator, they had instead located it in line with one of their Assberies toys, so the bullet went right inside the plug itself. The functions of the bullet are very limited, with the only options being off, or on and vibrating constantly at one speed. There are no varying speeds or patterns of pulsations to choose from, which is disappointing. The bullet is generally quite easy to operate whilst inside the toy, as the shape puts the button in an accessible position, and the bullet is quiet enough that no one will hear it in the next room. As part of my tests I did replace the bullet with a We-Vibe Salsa, to see if this improved things. While it did create a much stronger vibrating sensation, the position of the bullet still meant that the vibrations didn’t get deep inside the body and up to the prostate where I wanted them.
The packaging for the Butt Boy is rather nice, it comes inside a sturdy black cardboard box, with a clear plastic viewing window at the front. Inside the box the item is clipped securely into a plastic tray adorned with the manufacturer’s logo. It’s a convenient place to store the toy when not in use, as the material is prone to attract dust.
Cleaning the Butt Boy is a simple affair. As it’s silicone it’s non-porous and can be sterilised, either by wiping down with a 10% bleach solution, or by placing in a pan of boiling water for a couple of minutes – but do remember to remove the bullet first. Alternatively you can simply rinse with hot water and anti-bacterial soap, or use a handy toy wipe.
Overall I feel that the Butt Boy is a significant improvement over the Bad Boy, but it was still a bit of a disappointment for me. With a few design tweaks it could be a decent product, but as it stands I’m unlikely to use it that much.

You can buy the Butt Boy from Honour

Hybrid Toy Concept

I haven’t been shy about my criticisms of the Rocks Off prostate massagers, my main problem being the awkward horseshoe shape, so when I saw the L-shaped Butt Boy I’ll admit that it piqued my curiosity. My other problem, though, has been with the RO-80mm bullets they use to power their toys, I simply don’t find them powerful enough, but earlier today I was struck by a moment of inspiration. 

Someone recently mentioned on Twitter that We-Vibe make their favourite bullet vibrators, so I went and looked up their Salsa model, and as it happens it’s exactly the same dimensions as the RO-80mm, only it’s rechargeable and has multiple vibration speeds and patterns.
It was clear to me what had to be done; I want to combine the silicone sleeve of the Rocks Off Butt Boy, with the superior bullet vibrator that is the We-Vibe Salsa, and see if this experiment truly does create a superior prostate massager.
Now all that remains is to acquire the various parts and put my plan into motion!

Update: I’ve since purchased both parts and you can read my reviews by clicking one of the links above.

LELO Billy

After my disappointment with previous prostate massagers I wasn’t ready to give up yet, and this ergonomic creation from Swedish luxury sex toy designer Lelo happened to catch my eye.
Read the review after the jump!

The Billy is Lelo’s first toy insertable toy aimed at men, and for many years has been by far the best vibrating prostate massager I own, but that aside it doesn’t come entirely without its own set of negatives.
The product comes presented in some rather nice packaging; the glossy outer box features a very minimalist design with the words “Lelo Homme” printed discreetly on one side, and on the reverse is a simple photograph of the item itself set against a white background. The feeling it manages to exude is a cross between something from an haute couture fashion label, and an expensive piece of stylish electronics such as a smart phone. Inside is another matte black box, with the word “Lelo” embossed on a lid which lifts off. Within this second box the contents are arranged somewhat less desirably than with other Lelo products, such as the Insignia range. They sit loosely in the box, rather than having their own moulded depressions to rest securely inside, but this is perhaps a minor niggle, as overall the box provides a good place to store your massager when not using it, even if you choose to discard the outer box for any reason.
One of the first things I noticed about the toy was how small it actually was, much more than you would imagine from the photos. It’s actually the smallest toy in my collection, with 4” of insertable length and a 3.5” circumference, or 1.1” diameter. Because of the size it’s an ease to insert, and thus suited perfectly to a beginner in this field. For someone more experienced with larger toys there’s the distinct possibility that this product won’t leave you feeling as full as you would typically desire, and so I’d recommend that on any occasion in which you intended to use the Billy, not using anything larger first, so as to avoid the direct contrast.
The product is very solidly constructed; the handle is moulded in two pieces from a hard white plastic, with the buttons placed centrally on one side. The insertable portion has a gentle upward curve to it, and is coated in a soft silicone, but is completely inflexible. Despite this rigidity it actually feels very comfortable once inside the body. The silicone coating is available in two colours, an ultramarine blue, or an earthy raspberry colour, which like its name “Bordeaux” is reminiscent of an aged wine. Between the handle and the lower portion is a circular guard piece moulded from the silicone, which prevents the item from being accidentally inserted too far.
When using the Billy the functions are operated by the buttons on the handle, which can be a little fiddly. Due to the shortness of the handle and its position during use, it is a struggle to actually see any of the buttons, and their close proximity to each other combined with their similar shapes also makes it difficult to tell what you’re pushing by touch alone. The buttons are laid out in a cross shape, with left and right controlling the strength of vibration, and up and down changing the rhythm. You’re unlikely to alter your settings by accident as it takes more than a quick touch of the button to change anything, and instead you must hold the button down for a fraction of a second and release before it will take effect. Holding down two of the buttons simultaneously for a couple of seconds will lock the controls, preventing accidental activation of the toy when not in use.
The massager has variable vibration strength settings, allowing you to ease yourself into things, but I only ever found myself wanting to use the highest one. The top setting produces really quite strong vibrations, but there were times when I found myself craving more than was available. There are also a number of different programmes to choose between. The first one is a constant vibration, which tends to be the only option in many other prostate massagers on the market, and which does nothing for me. The other options deliver patterns of pulsations, varying the length of each pulse, and the pause in between as well. This is where the Lelo Billy really comes into its own and delivers some fantastic sensations. There are four to choose from, two slower and two faster. One of my favourite settings is the slowest one, as the vibrations it creates manage to mimic the sensation of a long deep thrusting motion, which is guaranteed to drive you wild. The fastest setting is one of my least favourites as it seems to lose some of its power in a compromise to achieve the speed. The other two are great in their own right, and it’s fun to switch between them during use to add some variety. One of the downsides is that you can’t cycle through the different settings; they’re arranged in a linear fashion, so once you reach the last one you have to go back down through the others in order to return to the first. Depending on the setting, the vibrations aren’t the quietest I’ve encountered, but it’s still at a level where it’s highly unlikely that anyone could hear it in an adjoining room.
Due to the protrusion of the handle there aren’t too many positions you can use the Billy in, you’re pretty much restricted to lying on your back or side, as sitting on it would not be possible. Conceivably you could use it during intercourse, but you would need to hold it in place with your muscles, as the size and shape of it leave it somewhat prone to slipping out if the soothing vibrations give you the urge to relax back there.
The Billy seems to work well as a hands free device, where the aim is to stimulate the prostate alone, but I’ve yet to achieve the elusive anally induced orgasm. Despite feeling as though I was close on occasion, there didn’t seem to be quite enough power to drive me over the edge, but I’m certain that with time it could be achieved. The effectiveness in this circumstance seems to increase if you’re already aroused by some form of visual stimulus, rather than starting with the device from a completely unaroused state. Having the massager in place also goes a way to improving a regular orgasm, by adding a whole wave of new sensations.
The product is completely rechargeable and requires no batteries. A handy white light around the buttons flashes during charging, and a 2 hour charge is said to deliver 4 hours of use, though I’m certain I’ve surpassed this mark. Unfortunately the charger it comes with is of a traditional design, unlike something such as an electric toothbrush, and therefore the toy is not waterproof. This means the need for caution when washing it. The instructions also recommend not using any alcohol based products on the toy, which rules out the majority of sex toy cleaners, except the one sold by Lelo themselves.
As an added accessory the Billy comes with a small travel pouch to store it in, made seemingly from a polyester material, or similar man-made fabric.
Overall I’m very pleased with the Lelo Billy, and would be inclined to recommend it, but scoring becomes a little difficult when considering the value-for-money. It’s clearly marketed as a luxury item, and the price reflects this, but when you’re spending that much, you could quite reasonably expect it to be waterproof, to be a somewhat larger than it is, and to have a little more power behind the highest vibration level. For those reasons I was tempted to knock a star off, but in the end I declined, and elected to rate it on performance alone. It isn’t perfect, but nothing is without its flaws, and in the end it’s up to the individual to decide its worth.

The Lelo Billy is available directly from Lelo, and from the following retailers around the world:

UK and Europe:, Simply Pleasure, and Bondara

North America: Shevibe

Rocks Off Bad Boy

Having tried dildos and butt plugs before, vibrating prostate massage seemed like the next logical step. Rocks Off do a whole range of these toys, including the Naughty Boy, Rude Boy, Cheeky Boy, Bad Boy, Big Boy and Butt Boy. I decided to go for the Bad Boy, because the bumps looked intriguing, and I chose it in red because it’s my favourite colour. These products tend to divide opinions quite strongly, between those who can fit the hooked shape, and those who find it utterly impractical.
Read the review after the jump!

When the product arrived I was very impressed by the overall appearance. The Bad Boy came packaged inside a sturdy black cardboard box, with a clear plastic viewing window at the front. Inside the box the item is clipped securely into a plastic tray adorned with the manufacturer’s logo, which makes it the perfect place to store your toy when not in use, safely away from unwanted dust.
Aesthetically it’s quite an attractive piece; I bought mine in a stunning scarlet shade. The product has more or less a horseshoe shape, with lots of bulges along the length of the insertable portion – which averages 1.5″ in diameter – and some nodules near to the bullet, designed to stimulate the perineum. There is a visible mould line running around the length of the toy, but it feels quite smooth.
The material used in the manufacturing is a type of silicone used in all Rocks Off products, which is completely odourless. I found this blend of silicone to be noticeably firmer than the silicone used in products by Tantus and Doc Johnson. The surface is very slightly rough, so you may wish to use a little extra lube, and the material didn’t offer a great deal of flexibility whilst using the toy.
The size of the tip makes insertion an ease at the beginning, but I soon found the hook shape of it to be a hindrance, and despite numerous attempts I was never able to insert it fully so that the final resting position resembled the diagram on the box. The tip of it seemed to have gone as far as there was physically room, and further pressure to insert the remainder only caused internal discomfort. The problem would seem to be that everyone’s anatomy varies to an extent, but toys like this must follow a ‘one size fits all’ approach. I would advise trying to manually locate the prostate using a digit before buying this toy; if you struggle to reach it then you probably have a deeper prostate and would benefit from the shape of the product, but if you can reach it easily then your prostate is probably in a more shallow position, and you might also have difficulty fitting the Bad Boy, and would benefit from something more conventionally shaped. The result of not being able to insert it fully was that it generally felt uncomfortable to wear. As half of it was hanging out it failed to stay in place very well and I was unable to sit on it to attempt generate stimulation from a rocking motion. The area of the toy designed to stimulate the perineum did not sit flush with that part of the body, and barely came into contact with it at all, meaning I did not benefit from this aspect of the design at all.
The vibration is powered by the RO-80 bullet, which can be removed and used separately if desired. The bullet is held in place very snuggly and can be difficult to extract without a lot of twisting, tugging, and wiggling, as the tight fit forms a vacuum inside. The entire toy is waterproof, so removing the bullet during routine washing isn’t a necessity. The vibrations did seem to travel the length of the toy, to the point that I felt a tingling inside, but none of which seemed to cause any pleasurable sensations in the prostate, even after prolonged usage. The part of the toy which vibrates the most strongly is the part which remains outside the body, as that’s where the bullet is located. By the time the vibrations travel from the source, through the length of the toy, and into the body they seem to weaken to a fair degree, being absorbed and dampened along the way. For this reason I feel a fully integrated vibrating function would have been better served than a removable bullet. The functions of the bullet are limited, with the only options being off, or on and vibrating constantly at one speed. There are no speeds or patterns of pulsations to choose from, which is disappointing. The bullet is generally quite easy to operate whilst inside the toy, as the shape puts the button in an accessible position, and the bullet is quiet enough that no one will hear it in the next room.
Overall it’s an attractive product, but the shape isn’t going to work for everyone. If you’ve never used a prostate massager before, then try a more traditional design first to see if that hits the spot. If you think you can accommodate the hooked shape then this might be the product you’re looking for.
The Bad Boy is available from Lovehoney U.S, Lovehoney UK, and Esmale – where you can get an extra 10% off by using the code ‘INCEND10’ at the checkout.